Thank you, Dr. Parks for an excellent article! When it comes to feedback, I remember the very wise words I heard at a talk given by Jiddu Krishnamurti. It was at the Felt Forum in Manhattan when he was 88 years old. And he spoke forcefully and clearly, and I remember well his words. He urged us to be reflective and not reactive when receiving feedback, even if we felt the feedback was completely inappropriate or not helpful we should just take it in and thank the person and tell them we would reflect on it. Krishnamurti said you should reflect on feedback for at least 24 hours if not more. He said you’ll often find to your surprise that at least some of what the person said rings true, and is helpful, even if this person seemed adversarial.

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